Lately, I’ve seen a lot of posts about caring about social media, about stats, about what makes a blog successful, and so on.
Bloggers have been talking about the reality of caring about stats, and not pretending they don’t, when they do, because -as it’s my case too-, we weren’t heard a lot in our real life environments, so we come on to the internet to share with like-minded people and for once, be heard. The problem is that once we’re heard, we want to be heard by more people, especially when others around us don’t really have to do anything because by now people just flock to them. And you want that, but that takes work, and luck, and you despise that ‘luck’ bit because as it turns out you may be the the unluckiest person ever, so what gives?
And talking about these things, it hurts, and it takes a special kind of courage because you’re admitting very human things. You admit to being selfish and jealous and a little greedy. You’re not a cool blogger who only cares about making the world a better place.
And that’s okay, you know? Because as long as we’re not assholes, the reasons why we do what we do are our own, so we should own them.
Some things you can do to start being yourself online
- Post about the books you are actually interested in, not just the ones that are hyped at the moment. Same goes for bookstagram. Find the people who are interested in those kind of books and don’t let them go!
- Make a post about your hobbies
- Make a post about a day in your life
- Request ARCs
- Don’t request ARCs
- Be on social media
- Or don’t
- Disclose your stats
- Or don’t
And this doesn’t only apply to blogging.
Being unapologetically me as an introvert
At first I was really embarrassed about being an introvert, and of course, believed there was something wrong with me. Then, I thought, surely, it was something I would outgrow –or I’d never be successful.
So the first step was acknowledging that I was indeed an introvert, and that wasn’t going away any time soon. And I was okay with it (I even wrote a post about that).
Then, there was the fact that I got to know myself better, and I started feeling confused and a little guilty about not fitting in as an introvert as well as I had before. Because I’ve gotten into public speaking, and doing other things that don’t fit into the introvert mold.
Could there be some drawbacks to showing ourselves as we really are? Or would it be more benefitial?
If someone doesn’t post about the ‘hyped’books, should they keep at it and risk not having a big audience, or change their tactic and practically trade their enjoyment for likes?